I’t’s been an amazing year that has taught me what I thought I knew.
Sometimes you think you know things.
And then life happens to show you that what you thought you knew you didn’t know or didn’t know as well as you thought you did.
That was my 2022.
I learned some powerful things that I thought I knew.
Reassigning people was my big lesson of the year.
For years I’ve noticed the big “I’m getting rid of all negative energy” push.
It’s all over social media.
Let’s keep it real, we all want positivity that fits our own definitions of what positivity looks like.
We want to have people around us that fit into our boxes and makes us feel warm and cozy every moment of every day.
But that’s not reality.
It may always be that way for them…
There are people we are around that we may not be able to get away from-at least not right now.
It happens when you’re employed and seeking a job before you quit your current one as an example.
It even happens when you’re self employed and want to complete a contract before you fire a client.
It happens in family units and in relationships of all kinds.
One type of relationship it happens in often is marriages.
We don’t like to talk about it but sometimes reassigning is necessary in marriages.
Especially in those that will never align and no one wants to leave.
As I reflect on this topic I think about the many marriages that have longevity, at least it looks that way from the outside. Behind closed doors reassigning has happened so the couple can co-exist for various reasons such as financial reasons or keeping up appearances.
You’re fired or You’re reassigned …
I worked for a company where it was difficult to be terminated.
They just didn’t fire many people.
If you couldn’t do the work they found something else for you to do and reassigned you.
In other words they demoted you.
If you had an addiction they sent you to counselling and treatment.
If you got fired it was because you just weren’t trying and they had exhausted all they could do.
Things have shifted and reassigning isn’t done as a first action these days.
People quit you.
They fire you at-will.
They stop taking your calls or responding to your text because reassigning isn’t an option for them.
In some ways getting fired or divorced or friendships ending is also a reassignment.
The take-away:
In 2022 I learned reassigning includes working with and seeing people that you continue to love and show grace to even though they don’t love or show grace to themselves instead of firing them. It’s not easy but it can be done. It doesn’t mean you won’t eventually have to terminate them like my former employer but you attempt to help–just not to your own destruction.
While helping you guard your spirit and just keep being the hands of Jesus extended.
It’s a wrap! Watching those you love self destruct is difficult, reassign if needed because caring for yourself is top priority.